I woke up early this morning to watch THE wedding on a live feed from YouTube. Actually, I woke up kind of late (with some prompting from Brooke who was asking me if I was actually going to get up). She slept through it, but she wanted to make sure that I could exercise my inner Anglophile. The computer took forever starting up because it had some updates to set up, so I missed everything before the point when they left the church. At first the connection was slow, but then it sped up.
Right after the couple arrived at Buckingham Palace I realized that I could take some screen shots for the blog! I felt like a photographer as I poised over the keyboard, waiting for the right moment to push PrtScn and then paste it in another file!
The Royal Family on the Balcony of Buckingham Palace
Waving to the Crowd
The Happy Couple
I did manage to get a really good shot of the Kiss!
Now, I have to admit something that probably is not very popular: I am something of a secret monarchist. Not that I want to impose one on our country, but I feel like those who have one should keep it if it is reasonable to do so. There is something important about the tradition and strength that comes from having a person or family that embodies the spirit of a nation, and a separation between the head of state and the head of government does wonders for the respect due to the former and the imposition of constraints upon the latter.
As for the argument that something is equally achieved by the election of a person to fill this role in the German or French model, I would argue that there is something significantly, and ironically, democratic in the hereditary nature of the monarchy – the strange notion that anybody with some proper training can lead the hearts, if not necessarily the heads, of a nation, and perhaps in the end the accident of birth might prove to be more fortuitous than the machinations of party politics. At least that is how I see things in light of the actions of the monarchs of Thailand, Spain, Japan and Italy to prevent extensive bloodshed and restore civil government. (Of course others disagree, but that’s okay with me – I’ll leave it up to much more able apologists to defend the world’s crowned heads, I’m just offering my own option).
Finally, it is in this, namely having somebody who is a national figure that is above politics, that the key advantage of Monarchy lies. Sometimes I feel like I would rather have the Queen and the Royal Family than the Hollywood hoodlums and pop princesses with which we Americans have so desperately tried to fill the gap! (On the other hand, having watched with interest the careers of our current and former first lady, I would have to give them credit for trying to pick up some of the slack where they can.)
Anyway, back to the wedding! After the ceremony was over, I went back and watched some of the “highlights” on the official wedding website. I was really struck by how profound the sermon given by the Bishop of London was. Since it’s not too long, and since it is so thought provoking, I decided I’d quote it here.
“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” So said St Catherine of Siena whose festival day it is today. Marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves.
Many are full of fear for the future of the prospects of our world but the message of the celebrations in this country and far beyond its shores is the right one – this is a joyful day! It is good that people in every continent are able to share in these celebrations because this is, as every wedding day should be, a day of hope.
In a sense every wedding is a royal wedding with the bride and the groom as king and queen of creation, making a new life together so that life can flow through them into the future.
William and Catherine, you have chosen to be married in the sight of a generous God who so loved the world that he gave himself to us in the person of Jesus Christ.
And in the Spirit of this generous God, husband and wife are to give themselves to each another.
A spiritual life grows as love finds its centre beyond ourselves. Faithful and committed relationships offer a door into the mystery of spiritual life in which we discover this; the more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed. In marriage we are seeking to bring one another into fuller life.
It is of course very hard to wean ourselves away from self-centredness. And people can dream of doing such a thing but the hope should be fulfilled it is necessary a solemn decision that, whatever the difficulties, we are committed to the way of generous love.
You have both made your decision today – “I will” – and by making this new relationship, you have aligned yourselves with what we believe is the way in which life is spiritually evolving, and which will lead to a creative future for the human race.
We stand looking forward to a century which is full of promise and full of peril. Human beings are confronting the question of how to use wisely a power that has been given to us through the discoveries of the last century. We shall not be converted to the promise of the future by more knowledge, but rather by an increase of loving wisdom and reverence, for life, for the earth and for one another.
Marriage should transform, as husband and wife make one another their work of art. It is possible to transform as long as we do not harbour ambitions to reform our partner. There must be no coercion if the Spirit is to flow; each must give the other space and freedom. Chaucer, the London poet, sums it up in a pithy phrase:
“Whan maistrie [mastery] comth, the God of Love anon,
Beteth his wynges, and farewell, he is gon.”
As the reality of God has faded from so many lives in the West, there has been a corresponding inflation of expectations that personal relations alone will supply meaning and happiness in life. This is to load our partner with too great a burden. We are all incomplete: we all need the love which is secure, rather than oppressive, we need mutual forgiveness, to thrive.
As we move towards our partner in love, following the example of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit is quickened within us and can increasingly fill our lives with light. This leads to a family life which offers the best conditions in which the next generation can practise and exchange those gifts which can overcome fear and division and incubate the coming world of the Spirit, whose fruits are love and joy and peace.
I pray that all of us present and the many millions watching this ceremony and sharing in your joy today, will do everything in our power to support and uphold you in your new life. And I pray that God will bless you in the way of life that you have chosen, that way which is expressed in the prayer that you have composed together in preparation for this day:
God our Father, we thank you for our families; for the love that we share and for the joy of our marriage.
In the busyness of each day keep our eyes fixed on what is real and important in life and help us to be generous with our time and love and energy.
Strengthened by our union help us to serve and comfort those who suffer. We ask this in the Spirit of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Not much can be added to that! Best wishes to the happy couple!